Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Felicia Day Is Not My Idol. And That's Ok.

This past weekend I attended Dallas Fan Days, which focuses more on sci-fi and fantasy versus the Comic Con they hold early in the year. And it was fun. I spazzed out at meeting Tara Strong, Ray Park, and Stan Lee (all commented on my costumes, so awesome!) It was a geekery come true.

So while I was talking about this to a friend of mine, he asked if I met Felicia Day or got her autograph or anything.

“Nope. I wasn’t interested in seeing her. I really wanted to meet Ray Park and get my wall scroll signed.”

“But it’s Felicia Day.”

“Yeah. So?”

“She’s a gamer girl, like you.”

“So? I didn’t want to meet her. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. She’s good at what she does, sure, but that wasn’t my interest. I wanted to meet Stan the mother f-ing Lee. The holy one himself!”

“Well I figure you like games, you’d want to talk to a gamer girl.”

I didn’t think much about this until today. It was just like any other conversation where a man assumes I would want to meet the gamer girls because I’m one too. I guess it’s bothering me now on two levels: assumption that I’m going to idolize a woman because she’s known for her gaming cred, and that I’m a girl so I have to flock to the female celebrity of the gaming world.


I guess I should start this off by saying that I have no qualms with Felicia Day and feel that she is a talented individual. She’s just not my cup of tea, so to speak. Great for her for building the career that she has. I don’t know her personally and haven’t felt drawn to learn more about who she is. Given a choice between her and David Hayter (who probably doesn’t play video games? I don’t know to be honest), I’d choose David. I’m a Metal Gear Solid fan and I would not pass up the chance to meet the voice of Snake. And you know what? That shouldn’t be a problem.

I shouldn’t be questioned on why I want to meet a male voice actor over a female actress that’s into gaming, simply because I’m also female.

I can forgive my friend. He was making baseless assumptions because of how we’ve all been brought up in this society to think. I know it wasn’t done maliciously, and he’s probably going to apologize after reading this. It’s another thing I deal with, that I’ve become so accustomed to.

But hopefully you can see why I’m a bit unnerved by it. This goes back to my posts about “nerd princess” Olivia Munn and porn star Misti Dawn. Just because these women exist and play video games does not mean that they are the end-all, be-all people that girls and women have to idolize. I have the opposite reaction seeing these women. I don’t want to idolize them.

Maybe I’m taking this all too personally. But man. Being a woman really sucks sometimes. No one to look up to in my geekdom. No one to talk to, other than fellow female geeks (which results in talking about how unfair things are with men). /sigh There’s really no easy way to end this article. Things suck and we need to start changing it. *cracks knuckles* Time to hit up the gaming hangouts, me thinks.


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